When I am in a relationship I want that person to be my equal, to grow with me, personally.
I do not want codependency. I do not want manipulation. I do not want denials and dishonesty of self or with the other person.
I look for certain core values and some chemistry and common interests.
I ask for virtues of honesty, faithfulness, and communication.
There has to be honesty with self and with your partner. It will make the relationship stronger, building trust.
Sometimes growing pains, if it doesnt kill you first.
Fidelty is important because it shows how strongly we are committed to this relation.
Communication is key, because no matter how many arguments, with love and respect, problems and issues are resolvable.
Chemistry is attraction in the physical sense. We have basic needs. We want to touch and feel. We want to taste and smell. We want to get high, the feeling of euphoria, awakening of the senses.
Common interests are somewhat necessary. The same taste in sports, music, enjoyments, means spending quality time together experiencing what life has to offer.
So I am out of a relationship last November 2004, and into another one last February. Yet I still have feelings for the old one. We have moved on; I dont know if we are still even friends. Friends are people you can trust, have your back, and knows what you like and dislike.
