emotional care

whenever i hear girls say, its all about emotional connextion, i start to cringe. really, what does that mean?

Its when the other person gets you and you get them. You are able to read them emotionally; they understand your emotional state.

They can sense your worriness (asking questions, pacing, absentmindedness, quietness)
or you are in turmoil (questioning, yelling, frustration).
They know you are afraid without you stating so (something happen to make feel this way).
They sense you are uneasy or unhappy about something (they shutdown, ignore, quiet)
They sense you are not yourself, you are influx (being with a person, to understand moods)
They see that you are unsure and insecure (what are their needs, insecurities, childhood)
They see that you are hectic or in a panic state (thinking is not clear, no direction)
They see the walls being built (not opening up emotional state, letting someone else worry)
They see you are working out something in your head.

First you must understand the range of human emotions from sad, happy, fearful, need affirmation, hectic, panic, need of support, excitement, questioning, am I doing this correctly (listed above).
Can I bring the other person back to a state of stillness where she is most of the time? they will be grateful and trusting of your skills. they will let you in and let you help them achieve this stillness again.

At the beginning of high school I begin silent meditation retreats, first for a weekend, then it became 7 days. Then I begin conducting them with my fellow graduates while in college. It was based on St Ignatius Philosophy. We are asked to calm ourselves each time, release everything around us, focus on your breathing and calmness from within, and only feel the presence of God and nature. We are asked to reflect on the events of the day and find the beauty in it. each person, each occurrences, and ask God the grace to see his presence and lesson for us. Basically, how do I spot a miracle in my ordinary daily life. How is God using me as an instrument of his love. By understanding this calmness, I begin to understand my emotional state of being. When i am freaking out, when I am scared, when i am needy, when i am unhappy and sad.

end of June 2008 Gay Pride Weekend

Lets see: went to the Alameda County Fair with Penny and watched Sex and the City, Wanted, and Get Start. Went dancing with Rachael at DNA Lounge on Friday nite. Saturday was about pre-dyke March party with Rachael, Bev, Diane @ Camilles house on Guerrero, walking with Penny, Ken, K&K, Kim and Liz C, and Diane, and then having dinner at Barracudda in the Castro with a bunch of fun girls, including Jenny and Barbara. Sunday was listening to Jen and Bev about being a chef for the Gettys family. Going to see the Parade and Festivities afterwards. Finally winding up @ the Greek Theater, sitting closer to the stage and seeing Cyndi Lauper performing live along with B-52s on the True Color Tour. Coming home I got a call from Kim (who is flirting with me over text). We talked about 2.5 hours. She has a nice voice and seem very mature.